It’s the kind where the connection can’t be explained and knocks us off our feet because we never planned for it. This is the love that comes so easy it doesn’t seem possible. The one that usually looks all wrong for us and that destroys any lingering ideals we clung to about what love is supposed to be. Falling In Love the 3rd Time: The Love that LastsĪnd the third is the love we never see coming. With this kind of love, trying to make it work becomes more important than whether it actually should.

This is exactly what keeps us addicted to this storyline, because it’s the emotional roller coaster of extreme highs and lows and like a junkie trying to get a fix, we stick through the lows with the expectation of the high. There may be emotional, mental or even physical abuse or manipulation-most likely there will be high levels of drama. Sometimes it’s unhealthy, unbalanced or narcissistic even. Yet, each time we try, it somehow ends worse than before. Our second love can become a cycle, oftentimes one we keep repeating because we think that somehow the ending will be different than before. We think we are making different choices than our first, but in reality we are still making choices out of the need to learn lessons-but we hang on. This is the kind of love that hurts, whether through lies, pain or manipulation. The second is supposed to be our hard love-the one that teaches us lessons about who we are and how we often want or need to be loved. Falling In Love the 2nd Time: The Hard Love We enter into it with the belief that this will be our only love and it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t feel quite right, or if we find ourselves having to swallow down our personal truths to make it work because deep down we believe that this is what love is supposed to be.īecause in this type of love, how others view us is more important than how we actually feel. This is the love that appeals to what we should be doing for society’s sake-and probably our families. It’s the idealistic love-the one that seems like the fairy tales we read as children. Often our first is when we are young, in high school even. Yet, it’s also believed that we need each of these loves for a different reason. It’s been said that we really only fall in love with three people in our lifetime. Falling In Love the 1st Time: The Love that Looks Right

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